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I apologize for my absence. Seems that we all deal with separations and such in different ways. Being that this is my first experience with a deployment, I wasn't sure how I would cope. For the most part, we're doing well. I find the biggest struggle for me is motivation. The rebellious side of me wants to chuck all of the "must do" things on my list in favor of the "want to" do things on my list. And I tend to find myself abdicating my responsibilities more often than not simply because I feel life owes it to me because of this deployment.


Did ANY of that make sense? The other thing that I struggle with is not getting enough sleep which makes my head cloudy so I'm not always the most articulate person on the planet!


However, I've had a firecracker lit under my rear end recently and I'm hoping that this is the start of a new phase in all of this and I hope to be posting here more regularly.


When Army Wives debuted, I watched the first episode grudgingly. I really didn't want to see, yet again, an hour's worth of stereotypical military wives running around, cheating on their husbands, sitting on their duffs, eating bon-bons and watching soap operas. That is not MY life. Nor is it that of any military spouse I know. I also didn't want to see the old "enlisted vs. officer" issue brought up ad nauseum. But my friend was watching it so I agreed to do the same. I was pleasantly surprised. Not entirely true-to-life but what TV show really is? After the first episode had aired, I wrote down some thoughts about the whole "enlisted vs. officer" issue that I thought I would post here today.


I was blessed that our first duty station was Alaska. Not only are we
aviation but we were in Alaska. Neither of which come close to "the
regular Army" in terms of protocol, etc. Our FRG was amazing. When we
first arrived, it was run by a CW4's wife. Being so totally new to the
military, I had no concept of rank. She was (is...we are still friends)
an incredible person and that is why people gravitated toward her.
There were no rank issues in our FRG. In fact, it wasn't until we were
getting ready to go to flight school that I began to learn the rank of
each of their spouses. I had never had any reason to pay attention
before that. And, being a rookie, I had no concept of the fact that
pilots were officers and crew were enlisted. Ignorance is bliss.



About
6 months before we left, our FRG changed hands and the 2 women running
it were the 1SGT's wife and an E5's wife. Again, I had no clue where
their husbands fell in the rank food chain. Nor did I care. They are
wonderful people. That was all that mattered. I knew that, if I needed them, they would be there for me or for anyone else in the unit.



That experience
with that unit and that FRG was incredible. It set the stage for every
single one of my expectations from there on out in terms of
relationships within the military, rank, Family Readiness Groups, etc.
Unfortunately I have yet to experience anything that comes close to it
but I am waiting patiently. And in the meantime, I make friends. I don't
give a rip what their husband/wife does for a living. I am friends with
someone because of who they are as a person, not as a spouse.


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