First and foremost, let me say that I am ashamed to be writing this. I ignore reality TV stars like it is my job. I learned who Snooki was even after President Obama, and I cannot say I am a better person for it.
But some things cannot be ignored — particularly when they clog your Facebook newsfeed. One of those things, I am sorry to say, is the ridiculousness of reality star Kim Kardashian and the reported reason for her divorce.
Are you ready? This from Fox News:
According to a report from TMZ, the couple was at odds over where to finally settle down. Humphries was reportedly passionate about settling down in his native Minnesota, and Kardashian simply wasn’t going for it.
While there is very little (or zero) evidence that Ms. Kardashian would make a good military spouse as it is, this just clinches it.
If you can’t handle the “duty station,” don’t get married.
Let’s be clear — I am in no way claiming being an NBA star like her husband and a servicemember having anything at all in common, except maybe that sometimes they both find themselves in cities that were not their first, second or even last choice. Sometimes, MilSpouses know, they may find themselves in Minnesota.
Analogy over.
And yet. Anyone have a spare pair of big girl panties they’d like to send this woman?
If you ever see her lurking around a servicemember, you may want to give her this little tip: sometimes you get stationed somewhere that blows. Think it over before you have a $10 million wedding.
Thanks to my friend Kerlina for pointing this whole thing out.
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I don't think we can begin to make this comparison here – this is a HUUUUGGGGEEE stretch. The implication being made is that women (assuming of course that SHE'S not the service member) should be prepared to relocate to wherever their husband (or husband's job) dictates. Should they have had this conversation prior to marriage? Of course.
Kim Kardashian is arguably more successful than Kris Humphries. Why isn't he relocating to her "duty station?" Marriage is based around compromise, and perhaps these two weren't ready to compromise on that issue.
I agree with you, it's quite a stretch – even military families have to settle down somewhere eventually. They just have to put off making that decision for longer than civilian newlyweds. There is no contract whisking either of them away from home to home – I also don't like the idea that the woman has to follow her husband to wherever he wants to settle down. In this day & age the woman should have equal say, & both should be willing to compromise WITH one another. Being a military spouse, where you live isn't a compromise you make, it's something you deal with. Being a civilian spouse, where you live is one of the biggest decisions you'll make, because it dictates the standard of living you'll have, the educational prospects for your children, the safety of where you live, etc.
"In this day and age" – What does that mean? Has the definition of marriage changed since God created it? And what exactly does "equal say" mean? It would appear that the insistence on "equal say" is exactly what destroyed this marriage. Two cannot become one if the two halves insist on having "equal say". This is what happens when you try to divorce the idea of "marriage" from the idea of "submission". You end up with "marriages of convenience", which, as soon as the convenience disappears, dissolve into “You go your way, and I'll go mine."
I hate to see anybody divorce, but if that is their idea of marriage, I'm glad they wised up now, rather than having kids, and then discovering that "equal say" is a recipe for disaster. It's a nice way of saying "I demand my equal rights, and I will not submit. My rights are more important than this union. (If submission is so important, why don't you submit to me for a change!)" This is not marriage. This is "Let's hang out together and hope we never really disagree on anything truly important." A marriage with no tie-breaker is not a marriage. Two cannot truly become one if the power structure is forever in dispute. A house divided against itself cannot stand. And the only house that has not been divided against itself is a house that has not been truly tested (yet). When the test comes, the divided house will fall. Theirs fell quickly. Sad that it had to fall, but better that it happened now, rather than the inevitable later.
also based on your last line here, i would think though that one would discuss major issues like this BEFORE tying the knot. at least in the real world.
I don’t see the comparison at all.
I love Kourtney and Khloe Kardashian.
I have no idea who Snooki is.
Lol. I don’t have much to say…
kardashian — what a bunch of low life trash
Eh, my take? She only did it for the $17 million she made "giving up rights to her wedding." Working it out, that's more than $10,000 an hour since they've been married. Totally a money and attention stunt, in my opinion.
As for the big girl panties? They don't make them large enough to ever make a difference for her. In order to counteract how truly messed up she is, she needs big girl panties the size of… Minnesota.
And I STILL don't know who Snooki is (someone clue me in because I refuse to do an Internet search for her thereby making her more "popular" and "searchable.").
Trust me — you don't want to know. Save yourself while you still can!!!!!
LOOOOVE this Amy! So true so true. I usually don't keep up with crap like this but like you, I was seeing it plastered all over FB. When I read her excuse for filing for divorce I actually laughed out loud and thought that my husband and I wouldn't have lasted very long if that was my mindset.
And as far as the cost of the wedding, I often think that the price tag on celebrities' weddings are directly proportional to their divorce rates. Just sayin'. And I'm with Wifey, I don't know who Snooki is either.
Oh, Roller Coaster. You really don't want to know who Snooki is. She's a million times worse than any of the Kardashians.
Here, this is about all you need to know about Snooki (from South Park): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YxKjga305cY
SO incredibly dumb. If you're getting a divorce because of the "duty station" your marriage probably wasn't that great to start with. Location is the dumbest reason ever to split. I agree with Roller Coaster, I think that the cost of the wedding has a lot to do with the divorce rate. People – not just celebrities – spend a FORTUNE on one day and forget that marriage is more than the wedding. And sometimes marriage is hard. *gasp* Did someone just say that?! Marriage isn't exactly living "happily ever after." It takes work to make a marriage great. You can't just expect it to be great just because you ARE married.
I agree. Like anything worthwhile, you have to WORK to make a marriage successful. And really work… it doesn't always come easily.
This article is moot simply because the "marriage" was fake from the beginning. It was only a publicity stunt to gain more ratings, more fame and more money and so KK could look pretty in a wedding dress. She never had any intention of staying with this guy or making any personal sacrifices. Once the wedding was over the only thing left to generate public interest was to either have a baby or get divorced. Obviously she chose divorce, and we can expect a slew of weepy interviews about how "heartbroken" she is and teary-eyed US Weekly magazine covers. Everything about this chick is fake.
Everything is fake except the money she gets from the media chuckleheads that pay attention to her.
Minnesota is a great place to live. Lots of green and lots of culture. I'm OK with her not wanting to move here. Pretty happy, actually.
Lol. Im from Minnesota and like any place has its ups and downs but I agree we don’t need her here.
What-EVER.
The most intelligent comment yet to this discussion…. Who caresssssss???? LOL!
Shouldn't they have discussed that matter BEFORE getting married.
Who got married? And divorced?
I've joked for years that I'm the one military wife who doesn't get to move. I moved every year when I was single — from one fabulous city to the next — then got married 9 years ago and have been in the same Army town ever since. My town isn't anywhere I would have ever chosen to live, but there are wonderful people here and I've made the best of it because (drumroll) the guy is worth it. I'm sure there are lots of amazing people in Minnesota, too — but KK will never get to meet them because she apparently didn't think her guy was worth it. And if you don't think the guy is worth it … you've got no business getting married.
The military lifestyle will seperate the men from the boys and the women from the girls. There used to be a saying when went like this "girls mature faster than boys." From what I am reading here KK apparently left the line when maturity was being passed out.
A true statement, couldn't have said it better myself. Being an x military wife, it takes a real woman to get the job done and stand by her man, girls can't handle it.
For all that money blown. I think it would have been better used for some worthy need out there instead of flaunting how much they have to waste.
it wasn't your money to choose how it is spent. if you want to make as much money in one lifetime as she had you can do what you want with it. but in the end it was her decision.
As a batchelor and a retiree and an Air Force brat, I think this is just ridiculous. These people completely blow my mind. I know that marriage is work, and hard work at that. What was that, was it real or just a publicity stunt? I never married beacuse I knew that my job would take me to some pertty crappy places. But if I ever do find a lady to share my life with I will be sure that we are reading from the same sheet of music.
Right on, Amy. Love is a decision, not a feeling. BTW, I refuse to watch their show (or Jersey Shore).
None of Kim's crap has anything to do with the military…I really don't like her but whoever wrote this article is just as ridiculous. Do you not have anything better to write about????
My husband left the Army a LT.COL. We married while he was in the Rotc………56 years ago…I would have followed him no matter where his duty was…..Got to love your man……….to bad for you KK…….YOU ARE MISSING OUT OF A LOT OF GOOD TIMES….You meet alot of great people from all over the world……Living now in Fl. born in Wisconsin……..
you all have no right to judge her. you don't know her and as a lot of you say don't even keep up with her. she doesn't want to leave where she is because she has made a life for herself and doesn't want to give up her hard work AND! her family. really you are just taking up space on the internet complaining about something like this. i wish people would put this much effort into things that really matter instead of just trying to bring others down all the time. come on grow up. it is her business as to why her marriage (might) be ending. people change their minds all the time people. grow up
nice to see someone be supportive! cant believe how many people are attacking her!
A kardashian expert in our midst? Some articles are more or less just to poke fun, and if someone prostitutes, errr, sorry, I mean sells themselves as extensively as Kim and Clan, they have to expect opinioneds like this :)
Exactly! In fact, the more people talk about her, the happier she is. She has bills to pay. And you can't stay on the front page of the tabloids for long without making a fool of yourself on a regular basis. Seriously, if she didn't want her life to be on continuous public display, she could easily fade into the background. There are plenty of places in this country where the paparazzi don't go. (This is exactly why Minnesota was out of the question!)
I can't believe how rude these women are talking this way about Kim. Kris was rude to the family and her before the wedding. If he had millions he would have not been spend all of Kim's. Kim is brave something we should teach girls and ladies. She saw he was rude, wasteful and disrespectful to the entire family. Kim did the right thing. She left before things got bad. Could Kim be a military wife? Yes. She just wants to be respected. Their are soldiers who put their wives education, health and family above their reassignment.
Well if he was so "rude" to her and her family before the wedding, then why was there ever a wedding to begin with? Things that make you go hmmm…..pretty sure it was just for money and to get her big ass in the news.
In reality the ONLY people that watch Reality TV have NO life of their own…
I do NOT know, nor do I care who Snookie is. I only know who Kim is because everything is Polluted by her! The outrageous FARSE of a Wedding was a TOTAL publicity stunt! Her gift registry was atrocious and obnoxious! She isn’t fit to wipe the sweat off the brow of any Military Spouse! One word comes to mind for her, GREED!
With her money she could help so many American Women but she only thinks of herself and the next Million Dollars she can make for herself! Shame on HER!!
Everything about her is FAKE. From Head to toe. Karma will win out in the end. And SHE will be ALONE! And a REAL woman will love Chris and they will live happily ever after…
wow. i cant believe that this is even being said about kim- and i'll tell you why… NBA lockout… Kris Humphries is currently UNEMPLOYED!!!!!- which means KIM is the breadwinner, and what is wrong with the MAN re-locating to support his WIFE's career!!!!! way to be "PRO WOMEN" ladies….. wtf?! if Kim is the one supporting the family… and does most of her work in LA, and Kris decides that he doesnt want to live there, is kim supposed to give up her career, and go settle in to be the good little woman, to take care of his sorry ass????? absolutely not….. those of you who think its a publicity stunt dont watch the shows, and dont pay attention, Kim is a head over heels romantic, and FLAT OUT ADMITTED that she got caught up in all the wedding plans, and that they have been having issues since before they even got married!!!!! you shouldnt make un-educated statements!
Watching her show by no means suggest you're "educated" about her motives… Just sayin'
I can agree to Kris Re-locating to Kim. That's what my husband does for me since I am the one who decided I'm a lifer. But you honestly could see the marriage being doomed from the beginning. I never took it seriously and I'm not surprised. Kris was going to be unemployed anyways so he should have been smart enough to stay with her even though I love Minnesota and its a wonderful place to live. Marriage is all about compromise and neither of them made much of an effort to their vows anyhow. I also agree that I was weirded out to even see her trashy self on Mil.com.
http://www.celebuzz.com/2011-11-01/kim-kardashian…
here's a message directly from her in case any of you angry people have the heart to give a shit about what she has to say.
MAKES ME SICK that this is all coming from a military spouse website too… makes us all look like a bunch of assholes.
it is very true. from my experience most military wives are more judgemental than the rest of the world and i find it sad to be associated with the rest of the wives out there that would rather slam on people than get to know them and their situation and being a little caring
I don't get the point of this at all. Its a big stretch to make to compare the two, and it seems it was done to generate traffic to the blog based on the current buzz over the Kardashian name. You have succeeded but at what cost to the integrity of the blog?
Suziquotoo you are the best ! Amanda what planet are you living on ? Talking about this women’s career. What career ? She stretches a black tighty over her fat *** and walks around in it and calls that a job . Get real ! Basketball players make way more than she does. This women is a walking talking publicity stunt. God I feel sorry for Bruce jenner. By the way a snookie is an std isn’t it ?
he isnt a basketball player unless he has a JOB… which he DOESNT…. and she is a business woman, they have clothing lines, perfumes… and like it or not, she brings in money from her reality shoes.. that IS a job. and if all of you are SO opposed and disgusted by the whole topic of the kardashians then why are you taking time of of your day to comment about her?!?!?!?!
I completely agree with Amanda. Kim is the one working and making the money. The Kardashians's have built their empire by Kris Jenner making smart business decisions for her family. What's wrong with that? What's wrong with Kris Humphries not wanting to make his marriage work by living where his employed and "bringing-in-the-bacon wife lives? I think there are a lot of jealous people out there that wish they were in the shoes of the Kardashian's and making their money.
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Why are you taking time out of your day to -defend- her? If our criticisms of a popular name is pointless, then your defense of said popular name is also pointless and if that's how you really feel, you should just ignore it.
Furthermore, Kim is -not- a business woman, she is a pretty face and a popular name on a product and gets paid for it. She doesn't help develop, promote, or create any of the real products. Sure, she may have the final say on what's in or out on some things, but I can almost guarantee she has little to no say in anything important.
A random company takes a name, any name with clout, and slaps it on any product, and it instantly sells. They did it with Paris Hilton, they did it with Britney Spears, and many others.
I don't really understand either why you're getting all hot and bothered about this either, Amanda. It's not like she cured cancer or something. Or even contributes anything to society as a whole. She's someone who's daddy had money, so she got a tv show. And because of that show, got a perfume and clothing line deal. That's it.
Standing ovations!
"It's not like she cured cancer or something. Or even contributes anything to society as a whole. She's someone who's daddy had money, so she got a tv show. And because of that show, got a perfume and clothing line deal. That's it."
Sounds like jealousy to me. FYI
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Why does this article even exist…?
ya same question here
I am a milspouse as well and I really don't see the comparison to what we go through or where the military sends us! Their lifestyle is nothing like military, so I wonder how the writer of this article could even waste their time getting everyone all tweeked about this very subject. Why show your bad side, when you should show your good… or just leave it alone!!!
I enjoy my life where ever we are becasue I am grateful to be alive and be with my husband. He is currently deployed for the 3rd time. No big deal, i'm still good despite the fact I have no funds to fly home in first class to see my mother (who is deceased, take the point) or other family and close friends when ever I want. Count your blessings, they are all around you! Enjoy life for what it is…and umm… grow up! SELFISH!!!!
i am a army spouse, i agree that KK couldnt make it as a army wife, it takes sacrfice. there was many times in my life i didnt want to move from my friends and family but i did. KK wasnt even willing to THINK about her husbands wants, she is all about herself, as a army spouse we dont even get a chance to THINK about moving we do to be with our husbands and keep our family units together
I don't understand the reason for this article. If you ignore reality TV stars like it's your job, then why write about them? I don't think it makes much difference that she married and then divorced. If her life choices didn't work for her, then that is her mistake she must live with. It would be different if she broke the law and the law treated her more favorably than an average person, but that's not what this subject is about. Why should we, as military spouses, be worried and hateful towards someone like her? It just makes us look miserable with our own life. Which I am not. I think the Kardashian sisters are entertaining.
What I find most appaling is that everyone thinks KK's business is their business. Yes I agree that she puts it out there, but come on people if you read it or buy the mags your feeding into it. If you don't want to have it plastered everywhere quit talking about it, reading it and blogging about it. I have read some pretty petty reasons military spouses have gotten divorced from the Mrs. Vicki blogs, so don't act like it doesn't happen to "real" couples. Just because they are celebrities everything gets blown out of proportion.
My son and his ex-girlfriend who have two children together, didn't get married because he wouldn't leave PA to move to Baltimore and she wouldn't move from Baltimore to PA. The kids never once were considered to be number one in this relationship. So now the kids are shipped off every other week to live in two different states. Makes no sense to me but, hey, I'm only the grandmother.
He could have found a girl like her for about 100 bucks a night. He would have saved a lot of money. Besides, the 100 bucks a night girl would probably had better morals.
I was wondering if this marriage was a "SHAM" in the first place help boost rating for their show.? If it is what a cheap publicity stunt it made the Ex-husband ended up looking like a fool. Well they say, "Love is blind." I hope he was well compensated for the wedding being televised since he is not playing b-ball or did it all end up in her pocket, if it did he got taken big time!!
All I have to say is she married down and thank God she dump that piece of @@@@. Mina who is that on earth some place!!!!!
All I know is I was waiting for the divorce. . .whoever thought this wasn't a publicity stunt was mistaken. When I heard of the reason behind it, I laughed too. I agree, seems like something that should have been worked out prior to the wedding.
Lets hope she don't end on any base
I didn't even know this guy was in the military. The only thing they talk about on TV is that he is a basketball player.
First of all, this is not a stupid article if attracted as many comments as it did. Second, it is an inevitable to ignore what is going with them so give trying. Next, both Kim and Kris have their issues and it was all evident before the marriage. Kim acted materialistic and Kris a sacastic dick. They both new about one another and loved because of it. Infant, Kris even mentioned Minnesota in the show so Kim new all about his motives. People who stick up for Kim like her because she is a women and are very bias because of this. Kris is sarcastic has done made some mistakes but he in fact should have been the one asking for divorce. He hates that she’s ungrateful considering she stayed at the second best hotel in the world and complained about the room being to big. Kris told her people would only dream of having a room like this. Also he hated the fact that she wore 100,000 dollar earrings in a bathing suit by the water. Her brother even said she could help so many people with that money. Yes maybe she is right about not wanting to move because she is the bread maker. Yet, despite the more important stuff Kris still wanted it to workout. Kim wants a divorce now and won’t work it out which Kris wants. It’s shameful that Kim looks at marriage like its it’s a sport or something and just can quit it likes it’s nothing. Last, about dating a serviceman. A serviceman in their right mind wouldn’t date someone who doesn’t make sacrifices and who spends more money on themselves than the people she could really help. A serviceman would go against everything he would believe in if he dated her. Kris you should have dropped her a while ago so shame on you.
By the way sorry about the messed sentences. Spell check messed some of them up but you still can figure out what they mean.
im a military wife and theres no comparison lol she didnt marry into military nor did her husband ex what ever join the military and who are you people to judge i love how people are so quick to jump on someone for THEIR life choices just because she famouse poor thing getting torn apart by people she dosent even know that dont know her saying her marrige was FAKE lol pleaseeee if she was just another middle class person you think anyone would be talking about it nor would anyone care its pathetic theres sooooo many things that go on behind closed doors people would ever know even with the reality show id say ladys "put your big girl panties on" and leave the poor girl alone lets be honest it is her life let her live it the way she feels is right
Why don't the people who are occupying Wall Street protest these outrageous weddings that cost enough to feed a small country?
WHat does this really have to do with real life anyway? Celebrities and rich people can be finicky like this anyway…we all know it. Moving on….
I loathe reality tv and all those plastic people. I would personally, and have personally followed my husband all over this country for almost 20 years with out even thinking twice. BUT, I wouldn't want to leave LA for Minnesota either. lol ;) Now, that doesn't change the fact it was all a scam in the first place. Also, we as military wives cannot be compared to that situation or even any situation where families may have to relocate. Heck, my MIL refused to move to Florida with FIL from NY when he was offered a promotion 20 years ago. They stayed in NY. It's called compromise. OH, and who ever even gave a thought to someone like that woman being a military wife. No way, lol.
Wow, to be envious of someone takes alot more energy than letting them be. I've done it all, military brat, active duty member, reservist and military wife. We all have our moments in life and marriage where we accept or reject what it brings us. True it's entertainment for those who want to watch. I admire the Kardashians and Bruch Jenner for the family ties they have and the opportunity they seized during a time when other people's lives on reality TV is an escape from our own reality. If you don't like them then talk about somebody you do. By the way there's a whole lot of fake military wanna be star wives out there who have nothing better to do but hate on someone else's success and only wish they had a fat ass for someone to look at. Get it together ladies, hold your head high with pride, we have earned it as military wives, but don't judge what someone else can or cannot do, because I'm sure your'e not perfect either in somebody else's world, work on yourself and grow up!
WHO…..in their right mind would want to marry the person any way!!! She is completly soulless and devoid of personality! UGH!! Beauty is skin deep, but ugly is to the bone!!
If you're looking for a military metaphor in this scenario, you've got it backwards. It is actually Humphries that is not cut out to be a military spouse. She has the strong career that demands a physical presence. He knew this when he married her, and yet he wants to shake up the status quo after the fact. He could just as easily live with her and then visit "back home" as he wishes. (Sound familiar, anyone?)
It's sad that most of you cannot see past the gender stereotypes to understand a relevant metaphor.
He divorced Kim Kardashian because he found out how big of a snob she really is!!!