How To Piss Off Your “Peace-Loving” Mother


When I read this story about Rosie O’Donnell’s son Parker begging his mother to attend a military academy, I was reminded of my friend’s sister-in-law who forbade my friend from giving her nephew holiday gifts which were in any way “militant” or military related. So fearful was she that her child may become attracted to the military that she was determined to do everything in her power to dissuade him from the notion that military service was an acceptable option for a future career.

At some point children choose their own path no matter what parents have done to push them in one direction or another.

“He chose on his own. He actually begged to go to a military academy. And I was like two years of ‘No way,'” the OWN talk show host explained on Access Hollywood Tuesday.

“Truth is, since he was a little boy, that’s his area of interest. The same way I love Streisand and Bette Midler and entertainment, he can tell you any general in any war, what kind of tanks they had, what the battles were like,” O’Donnell, who has three other children, said. “So I finally gave in and truthfully, he’s excelling and he’s very happy.”

After reading the full article, it was this quote which jumped out at me:

“How do you really piss off your really left wing and peace-loving mother? You join the military,” the comedienne joked. “Parker was like, ‘Mother, I’d like to serve the Nation.’ I’m like crying, ‘Serve me instead!'”

I’ve always taken issue with those who assume that service members and their families are rebel rousers for war or aren’t lovers-of-peace themselves. They may be the first ones to run towards the fight, but they are the last to want a fight. Military families want peace as much as any civilian, perhaps more so. However, if called to fight, our military will rise to the challenge.

I wish Parker all the best at his military academy and I sincerely hope that this experience is an eye-opener for his mother. Something tells me it will be….

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  • Wow, what a close minded and selfish point of view. Serve me instead? Really? Maybe someone should point out to Ms. O’Donnell that by serving the country, he *is* serving her — even though she doesn’t appear to appreciate it. I’m glad she finally relented and let him go.

    • Bill

      She was being sarcastic SESPI….Parker’s decision will have a positive impact on her. Good for him. That household needed at least one real adult!

  • Stacy

    I’m really glad that Rosie will have the opportunity to learn more about the military family life; that we are regular kind of people with a bit more commitment to our country…and we’re definitely not war mongering for sure. Some people will only be open to other views if they’re forced into it. Anyhoo, I also understand not wanting your child to be in the military. I have been in the army life my whole life (born, served, married, raising army brats) and we talk openly with our sons about the military being an option for their future. However, behind closed doors my husband and I talk about how hard it would be to send our sons off to war.

  • Michele

    arrgh. Or she’s just turn into my MIL who – 30 years later with the Guard, still takes issue with her son for not getting a “real job” and has never let him forget her disappointment over him enlisting right out of college an yet still often wonders during deployments why the kids and I just don’t go with him. Always clueless.

  • Chris

    Serve her what? Thank God her son has sense.

  • sandra

    God bless Parker and those like him.

  • Ed C.

    How many of us can truthfully say our mothers were pleased as punch when we announced our plans for military service? My mom knew since I was a kid that I’d enlist one day but it didn’t stop her from booing her eyes out.

  • Heather

    Well, I come from very left wing, former hippy parents who were extremely happy about my joining the army when I did back in ’93 and have shown nothing but support to my career Army husband (20+ years). To say all left wingers or liberals are against our service members etc is WRONG! Heck, my husband and I are liberals if you want to get technical, but I certainly support my husband and our services members. Why do right wingers get so touchy about jokes and the military?

    • functional art

      I don’t think it’s “right wingers” who get touchy about the military. Every time we get together with my husband’s family we are subjected to my very conservative MIL bemoaning how the military “took” two of her sons. It is military members who are rightfully offended when people, especially family members, look at our carefully chosen career as though it is somehow a lesser choice than a civilian position.

    • gokumonster

      I hear you on this. I tend to disagree with about 90% of the articles on here as everything is taken as a personal offense to the military or themselves. THAT really gets under MY skin.

  • Navet

    No one will ever understand what it takes to wear the uniform, if you never wore one, liberal or not. If you love your freedom- thank a veteran.

  • SemperSteen

    My husband and I are both “really left wing and peace-loving,” yet here we are. Hopefully Rosie will realize that there is much, much more to military service than waging war. No country can have peace without men and women stepping up to defend it if necessary. Best of luck to her son.

  • gil

    Proves that a good American like Parker can come out of a history/home of someone like Rosie who has sucked off of the system she so dearly decries. All these anti-capitalist and anti-republic who praise the socialist systems that have proven to be short term over the past 200+ years of this Republic’s existance, while they suck off of the very system they “hate”. Just like the “occupiers” reaming the very system that allows them the right and fiscal means to voice thier opinion, usually hate and venom, while praising and backing the very ones who really cause the problems in this society. The fiscally runaway, self-serving, slave to the state politicians whose only agenda is power over their constituients instead of true service to the “bosses” they are constitutionally beholding to. Of course the public is in the end the final blame for voting for the crumbs these same arrogant ruler wannabes thriow out and all the while re-enslaving them to government not of the people or for the people but, over the people and their lives and freedoms originally guaranteed by the wisdom and foresight of our founders and the documents they authored after seeking truth from history and it failures. Rosie is a sack of fecal matter but, her son somewhere along the way was able to rise above his upbringing and declare his rights and freedom and the “responsibilites” for the same. Rosie and her ilk want the freedom to do as they wish with no responsibility for their actions and no allowance for the rights and freedoms of others, as long as they can suck the system into oblivion. Good show and good luck Parker and congratulations on knowing your responsibility to your country and the precepts it has long stood for.

    • Heather

      You need help.

    • Lemme get this right, you’re presuming that he is “a good American” of an all together different intellectual and moral character than his mother based on a few lines on the internet describing an interest in Military History and a desire to attend academy whilst also condemning broad swathes of people based on equally broad generalizations….

      I think the phrase “emotional flights of fantasy” applies well here.

  • dokmartin

    but this 1%er “supports” the military. people like her are so used to be treated like royalty that they foeget that the world dosen’t revolve around her.

  • robert

    Rosie is not peaceloving, she is all about politics her way.

  • Rob

    Good for him.I think rose was pissed off way before this.

  • Cookie Monster

    “They may be the first ones to run towards the fight, but they are the last to want a fight.” WRONG!!!! That may be true for some military members but I can tell you for a fact that people join the Marines to fight.

  • Mike Terry

    Just like Rosie twat downing the NRA, but still want’s her bodyguard to carry a weapon. Where would she be if every mother told her son NO, why don’t she just go away and bump nasties with her girlfriend or wife or whatever she is.