I wanted a honeymoon. Specifically, I wanted to wear a white bathing suit on a beach in Cancun holding hands and drinking frozen peach daiquiris with my groom. I wanted a straw hat, dammit. And a sunset.
Instead, we had a military honeymoon. We PCSd to Orlando. Not only did we not have the money for a real honeymoon, we didn’t have the time. Brad had exactly three days off for the wedding before he had to report back to his command Monday morning.
My friends were appalled—as if our marriage would not last without a blender and a pool boy. My mother was not. “You are in the military, darling,” she said. “You will have lots of honeymoons.”
I thought she was an idiot. There is only one honeymoon and that happens the day after you get married, right?
Not really. Not if you marry into the military. The thing is that my mom was a military bride, too. She knew that we would take a military honeymoon all over Orlando the way she and my dad honeymooned all over Valdosta, Georgia.
We did. Like them, we honeymooned wherever the military sent us. We honeymooned in San Francisco. We honeymooned in Phutket, Thailand. We honeymooned in Rome and New Orleans and Wintergreen, VA. Pretty much anywhere we traveled alone together turned into a honeymoon with beaches and frozen daiquiris and sunsets.
Maybe we honeymoon because we just like each other and we would have done that no matter what professions we followed. But maybe we honeymoon because the military has a way of teaching us that time alone together is rare and fleeting and slipping away from us all the time.
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Comments
My spouse keeps trying to tell me that we had a 3.5 year Hawaiian honeymoon.
I reply that if I'm changing diapers, it doesn't count as the honeymoon I'm still waiting on.
Someday we'll have our 'official' honeymoon.
But I get what you're saying–we have 'dates' just walking the dog around the neighborhood in the evenings.
O how true are your words. Thank goodness. My own honeymoon was PCSing to Eielson AFB, AK in December! Can you say -40 ambient air temp plus ice fog. We survived and have had plenty other "honeymoons" over the years. I've loved them all.
I can see how every women would love a real honeymoon but it’s like once you say “I do” especially to someone in the military it’s hard to get one. I never had a “honeymoon” when I got married but traveling with my husband all over is the best way to say that it’s a honeymoon, well for me at least.
Every homecoming from deployment is a honeymoon!!
I love this article. Being a Marine wife was hard and had its challenges… but it also brought blessings and opportunities for joy, appreciation, and taught us the best groundwork of any marriage: trust, patience, respect, and more patience =)