About Jacey Eckhart

Jacey Eckhart is the Director of Spouse and Family Programs for Military.com. Since 1996, Eckhart’s take on military families has been featured in her syndicated column, her book The Homefront Club, and her award winning CDs These Boots and I Married a Spartan?? Most recently she has been featured as a military family subject matter expert on NBC Dateline, CBS morning news, CNN, NPR and the New York Times. Eckhart is an Air Force brat, a Navy wife and an Army mom.


Top 10 Signs You’re a Complainer (And How to Fix It)

I am not one to join a Quit Complaining campaign. I figure if you aren’t complaining about life just a little, you aren’t paying enough attention. But in military life where so many hold a … [Read more...]


11 Ways To Calm Down (When Freaking Out!)

During deployment, we don’t just worry about our service member’s safety, we worry about the house burning down for good measure. We don’t just worry about the deployment being extended, we … [Read more...]


Spouse Summit: Your BEST Military Life, Not Just His

Does it ever seem like the military only sees you in terms of what you can do for your husband? Or your wife? Or your partner? It can feel like they don’t quite realize that you have a life, … [Read more...]


You Can’t Quit the Military!

Nobody “quits” the military. There is no walking into the first sergeant’s office and telling him that you are “grateful for the opportunity.” You can’t text the CO from your car in the … [Read more...]


What To Write For SpouseBuzz

One of my favorite moments at a Spouse X event is when the writers appear at my elbow. “What can I write for SpouseBuzz?” they ask me. Some of them are professional writers already. They have … [Read more...]


7 House Cleaning Games For Lazy Parents

When you are a Must Have Parent (the kind who holds down the fort alone because your partner is in the middle of the Pacific Ocean or, say, Kabul), you are doing the work of two parents. So you gotta … [Read more...]


Are We Numb to Mass Shootings?

When they come home from war, we expect them to be safe. They expect to be safe. When I work homecoming retreats, so often soldiers and sailors and Marines and airmen tell me that their feeling at … [Read more...]


Ban Tobacco and I’ll Still Mail It

Urged on by members of the Senate, Defense Secretary Hagel is busy mulling over whether the military should quit selling tobacco products in Exchanges or on ships. His reasoning? No one thinks … [Read more...]


PCS Alone: Any Ideas To Survive?

No one thinks of going through a PCS move during a deployment and thinks, Oh, Joy! Rapture! Instead they think, Oh @$&^%^%! Asami is the mother of two “really, really active boys” ages 5 … [Read more...]


Why Do Men In Uniform Rule Online Dating Sites?

What explains the edge military guys have when it comes to online dating? Do women really like a man in uniform that much? Or is something else going on? When it comes to the research, you might be … [Read more...]


Give Up Mean Girling, Military Wives

As I sat in the laundry room one day, I overheard two women talking about another spouse.  They spoke with disdain about how she was afraid to drive overseas and how the only time she went anywhere … [Read more...]


How to Stay Together Forever, Military Style

Date. Your. Husband. At our Spouse Experience events, we always like to ask long-married military couples how they are managing to stay together forever. We are secretly hoping for sex … [Read more...]


6 Overpowering Beliefs Of Spouses Who Land Jobs

Nothing like getting a letter from an airman in love to make us feel really helpful at SpouseBuzz -- especially when it comes to outwitting spouse employment problems. Tim wrote us about how his … [Read more...]


Military Brats Gone Wild

No military parent wants to see their kid on CNN with the caption, “Porn to pay tuition.” If your military kid is going to be famous, you might hope it is because they are someone like … [Read more...]


Will Your Family Stay for 20 if Retirement Changes?

Before the magic ten year mark, military retirement is so far away it doesn’t make any difference in a couple’s decision to leave the military. After the magic ten year mark, leaving the … [Read more...]


What I Wish I Knew BEFORE All This Debt!

Got debt? If you are part of a military family you probably have more debt than your civilian neighbor.  Gah. A survey of military families recently found that 27% of service members have more … [Read more...]


Want YOUR Kids To Hunt Eggs At White House?

Every year on Easter Monday, the President and First Lady host a bunch of cute kids at the White House for an Easter Egg Roll. Every year I wish my kids were invited to that event.  I have cute … [Read more...]


Have You Tried Teleparenting?

I know I’m supposed to be scandalized at the mom in the Exchange who handed her fussy toddler an iPad. The kid instantly stopped fussing, but think of his brain development! And I know I’m … [Read more...]