I stood motionless at the far corner of the Memorial, moving only to blink when someone stepped into my peripheral vision, or when a beeping camera phone interrupted my efforts to trace a drop of … [Read more...]
About Lori Volkman
Lori Volkman is a Deputy Prosecutor, mother of two, and wife of a Navy reservist. She is also an award-winning writer at Witty Little Secret, a military family blog about her experiences as a military brat, active duty wife, and now reservist family. She volunteers as the Communications Director at www.MSJDN.com, an organization that advocates for military spouse licensing in all 50 states. She was voted the 2013 Navy Base San Diego Military Spouse of the Year by her peers.
How a Hookah Helped us Reintegrate
One of my most difficult struggles during this year’s reintegration process has been giving my husband the space he needs to merge gracefully back into our lives after a year-long military … [Read more...]
Ta-Ta Tattoos — the Perfect Welcome Home Gift?
We all know military spouses are extraordinary individuals; they endure the hardships of deployment willingly and with pride. That's why it's always such an honor, nay, a privilege, when the civilian … [Read more...]
New MilFam Survey: Everything is Peachy?
I had the privilege of sitting in the United States Congressional Auditorium yesterday to hear the results of the BSF's most recent project, the Military Family Lifestyle Survey Report. I looked … [Read more...]
Osama bin Laden: A Year’s Reflection
One year after the death of Osama bin Laden, I look back at the day I first heard the news … I was in Washington DC for Milblogcon, a military blogging conference. I was just getting off the … [Read more...]
Alleged Afghan Shooter’s Wife Was a Blogger
Just days after the military announced Staff Sgt. Robert Bales was the U.S. Army soldier being investigated for the shooting deaths of 16 Afghanis, details about his past four deployments to Iraq and … [Read more...]
The Milspouse Facelift: Skypoplasti
I harbor the fantasy that I will always look like the fresh-faced girl in the polka-dot dress that my husband remembers waving goodbye to, but real life just doesn’t accommodate that desire and … [Read more...]
Is PTSD Hurting My Marriage?
Reintegration so far has been like sitting on a surf board. I am looking down through clear blue water, not expecting any big waves, just enjoying the company. Then a shadow appears under my board … [Read more...]
I’m Not Ready For Him to Come Home
We’re counting days now instead of months until my husband returns from a one year "plus" deployment. And I’m not ready for him to come home. I’m just not ready. I mean, I haven’t finished … [Read more...]
An Operational Order To My Deployed Husband
Last week I wrote my deployed husband an email expressing various events, emotions, and challenges. I admit, I was emotionally needy and effusive. It's not what a guy wants to read at the end of his … [Read more...]
Pillow Talk That Sticks
It’s funny how one mundane memory can reappear, and make you laugh and cry, all over again. A week or two before Husband left we had a quiet moment alone at bedtime. The room was dark, and I … [Read more...]
Memorial Day Feels Different This Year
This week a reporter emailed me to ask my thoughts as the spouse of a deployed servicemember on Memorial Day, and I couldn't answer the question for a whole day. I felt ridiculous for being at a … [Read more...]
