About Raleigh Duttweiler

Raleigh Duttweiler is a writer and social media expert living just outside the gates of MacDill in sunny Saint Petersburg, Florida. A Marine Corps wife, she has navigated the stress of Active Duty moves, trainings, and deployments, and now that her family has transitioned to the Reserves, she's experiencing the "weekend warrior" side of military life. (NB: It's not quite as part-time as advertised.) When not writing about benefits and military families, Raleigh posts here about truly life-altering, important issues like What Not to Wear to a Military Ball (visible thongs), Military Halloween Costumes We Love to Hate (ones that generally resemble both military uniforms AND thongs), and how to pack awesome care packages. She is passionate about spouse employment, higher education, and helping families navigate the often-bumpy transition back into civilian life. Raleigh also manages the SpouseBUZZ and Military.com Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest pages, so be sure to say hi!


How to Host a Military Retirement Party

One of the questions we regularly get on SpouseBuzz is how to throw a military retirement party. Are you supposed to plan it? Does someone else? What is it supposed to be like? What kind of food is … [Read more...]


10 Back to School Meals Every Mom Needs

It's been a couple years since we talked about how to survive feeding your brood during back-to-school time, which, like the never-ending sales season that is Christmas, slams you with all the things … [Read more...]


The 5 Friends Every Military Spouse Needs

Every year the meeting halls and conference rooms of Washington D.C. fill with military spouses. They’re there for Military Spouse of the Year, Homefront Rising, MSJDN, Spouse Summit, or maybe the … [Read more...]


Your Lactation Consultant Probably Isn’t Covered by Tricare

Here's a short list of things that are easy for new moms: Wanting coffee. Wanting sleep. Wanting both sleep and coffee all of the time. Not on that list? Feeding your baby. Feeding babies - … [Read more...]


To My Civilian Friends on Memorial Day

Dear Civilian Friend, I have to tell you something about Memorial Day. You’re doing it wrong. Now don’t get upset - I know you have big plans. I’ve seen your patriotic barbecue board on … [Read more...]


Kids in Military Gear: Cute or Insulting?

Do you put your milkid in pint-sized military gear? Super cute or not so much? I admit: I never thought about it until I started having kids of my own. And really, I didn't even think about it then … [Read more...]


10 Things Military Kids Can Teach Civilians

I grew up as a civilian, and man, I had it hard. I had to live in the same (rather perfect) house my whole young life. I had to go to school at the same school several years in a row. When I graduated … [Read more...]


Military Wife on Bed Rest? HA.

Two years ago around this time, I was put on bed rest when I was pregnant with our first child. NBD.  The staff at Walter Reed were awesome, hubs was deployed, and I was staying with my mom. Can you … [Read more...]


Who in the World is ‘Gunny Claus?’

Macy's has the Real Santa. 1st Civ. Div. has a mall stand-in. But here in the Marine Corps, we have Gunny Claus. That's right, Gunny Claus. 1st Reindeer Division, Marine Corps Base North Pole. I'm … [Read more...]


21 Things Only MilSo’s Understand

As every military spouse knows, the "military" part of your life doesn't just affect your service member. It affects your whole life, too. And these 21 ways sum it up... completely. 1. Because … [Read more...]


18 Great Military Presents Under $20

We spend a lot of time roaming the aisles at the Exchange hunting down holiday presents for our spouses. And our spouse's parents, our parents, our grandparents, our siblings, our closest friends, our … [Read more...]


Why Obama’s Ebola Comments Should Make You Angry

Some days, as a military spouse, I feel like I need to beat the public over the head with what our life is like. The misconceptions, misunderstandings, and general misrepresentation of our troops and … [Read more...]


Everything You Wish You Knew Before Your First Ball

Ever been that girlfriend nervously googling "what to wear to a military ball?" Because I have. Guilty as charged. But that was several years ago, and honestly, the internet pretty much failed me. I … [Read more...]


5 Picture Presents We’re Ordering for our Holiday Care Packages

It's that time of year again. When the rest of the world starts buying Halloween candy, and we start thinking about what on earth we can put in a Christmas or Hannukah box that might take the bite out … [Read more...]


Should A Pregnant Cinderella Go to the Ball?

Cinderella has always welcomed the opportunity to strut her stuff at the ball. Maybe she leaves the pumpkin chariot at home, but hey, she shows up, looking awesome, sparkly shoes and all. Until... she … [Read more...]


10 Military Halloween Costumes We Love to Hate

Oh hey, Halloween. How ya doing. I haven't seen you and your (incredibly ... interesting?) military Halloween costume choices for awhile. But then here you are, landing in my inbox, as if somehow you … [Read more...]


We Got the Pink Slip – And We’re Okay

Every time I see a story like this one about another service member getting pushed out and another family getting the pink slip, my stomach turns. Partially out of fear (because I know that sinking … [Read more...]


Five Tips for Cleaning Military Uniforms

Because camouflage doesn't clean itself. And, for reasons I don't understand (and, for the record, don't like), the 'don't touch my gear' rule seems to apply to everything but the dirty cammies. The … [Read more...]