About Why Didn't You Tell Me

Why Didn’t You Tell Me is a weekly feature that gives our readers a space to tell their own story. If you have a story for us, please submit using the contact button above. All stories must be original and unpublished.


YDU: I’m a Big Fat Fraud?

Why didn't you tell me that I would be a big fat FRAUD? I have been through many, many deployments. So many, that I haven’t even kept track of the number. I have felt the dread of … [Read more...]


YDU: You Can Find Yourself Through Running

Why didn’t you tell me I would find so much of myself through running? October 20, 2013. That was “the” day of the Army Ten Miler in Washington, DC. And I was registered. But  I. Am. Not. … [Read more...]


YDU: Employment Is My Biggest Struggle?

Why didn't you tell me that employment would be my biggest struggle as a military wife?  I got plenty of other warnings before I married into the military? -- “You’ll be far from … [Read more...]


Why Didn’t You Tell Me I Would Miss Military Life?

It still happens sometimes. As I near the entrance to a store, I reach into my wallet and attempt to pull out my ID. Then, it dawns on me. I am not at the PX, I no longer carry a dependent's ID , and … [Read more...]


YDU: We Can Make a Difference With Lawmakers

I will just come out and say it: I was wrong. And let me tell you, those words do not fall out of my mouth often. But I need to give credit to where credit is due. We put up a good fight my … [Read more...]


Why Didn’t You Tell Me About Daddy Lookalikes?

The first time I saw a kid run up to a service member who wasn’t his daddy was in the commissary in the dry goods aisle. You know, the one with rice and beans and spaghetti and for some strange … [Read more...]


YDU: We Could Raise Incredibly Resilient Kids

Why didn’t you tell me I would be raising incredibly resilient kids? Seriously, I thought I would have a nervous break down the first time I moved my children away from everything they had ever … [Read more...]


YDU: “How Long?” is a Line in the Sand

Lately I’ve noticed that there seems to be an imaginary line between MilSpouses drawn in the proverbial sand. One side says, “Yes, you may have negative feelings in these situations.” The other … [Read more...]


YDU: The Tower of Babble

Why didn't you tell me that the military would turn me into a babbler?  After all, the nice man behind the counter just wanted to know what had brought me to the area.  I suddenly developed some … [Read more...]


YDU: I Developed a Case of Deployment Brain

Why didn't you tell me I'd develop a case of deployment brain? When my friend was six months pregnant, she  woke up, dressed and drove to work on a Saturday morning. She thought it was a Friday. … [Read more...]


YDU: The Army Ruins Plans for the Guard, Too

I read about it all the time on Spousebuzz - The Army does not care about your plans, it does not care about your schedule. The Army cannot always keep its promises. For whatever reason, though, I … [Read more...]


YDU Sometimes I Feel Like Pretty Woman?

Why didn't you tell me that sometimes I'd feel like Pretty Woman?  Before I start, let me state for the record that I am not complaining about my life with my Marine. I love him. He’s the hardest … [Read more...]


Your Baby Kindness Is My Sanity YDU

Why didn't you tell me that your kindness would be my sanity?  I remember going to my first “mandatory fun” unit event after my second child was born. My husband had just deployed. My 19-month … [Read more...]


YDU: My Goals Would Change?

Why didn't you tell me my goals would change? Since I was young I always wanted to achieve something great with my life. I decided without a doubt, I wanted to go to college. I actually didn’t see … [Read more...]


YDU: I Don’t Need to Volunteer for Everything

I have a magnet on my fridge that says “Stop me before I volunteer again.” I bought it because I thought it was funny ... and I had misplaced my mug from college that said the same thing. So … [Read more...]


Navy Wife’s Letter To Her Husband At His Retirement: YDU

Why didn’t you tell me that (except for the flowers) spouses are not really recognized at retirement ceremonies? My husband of 25 years calmly told me that there is not really a place for spouse … [Read more...]


YDU: Remind Me That I’m Not Alone

Why didn't you tell me that I would need my friends more than ever?  As much as the Leo in me would like to believe my wonderful friends think about me every day, I am a realist. It just doesn’t … [Read more...]


Why Didn’t You Tell Me To Shoot The Smoke Alarm?

If there is one thing this milspouse is great at, it’s problem solving. So when the only smoke alarm mounted on our freakishly tall ceiling starts beeping for no reason, I spring into action. … [Read more...]