About Why Didn't You Tell Me

Why Didn’t You Tell Me is a weekly feature that gives our readers a space to tell their own story. If you have a story for us, please submit using the contact button above. All stories must be original and unpublished.


YDU: Gifted and Talented In One State, Not In Another?

Why didn’t you tell me my daughter would be gifted and talented in one state and not in another? Even temporarily? I was just reading on SpouseBuzz about how all 50 states are trying to make … [Read more...]


YDU: Don’t Believe the Spouse Sisterhood?

Why didn't you tell me you didn't know about the military spouse sisterhood? In my 25 years as a Military Spouse, I have come to fully believe that, “Yes Virginia, there is a Military Spouse … [Read more...]


YDU: Responsible For My Own Happiness?

Why didn’t you tell me that in military life we are responsible for our own happiness--perhaps more than most? While struggling with the same day to day issues our civilian counterparts … [Read more...]


YDU: I Tried To Deny Military Spousehood

I spend a lot of my time with other military spouses these days. They are some of my closest friends, they are my collaborators in business and they are my clients. I am proud to be a military … [Read more...]


YDU: Kid Attends 9 Schools By 7th Grade?

Why didn't you tell me my son would attend nine schools by the time he reached the seventh grade? The other day I was late to an event because I started obsessing over these numbers. We will be … [Read more...]


Losing Deployment Poker

We've all endured military spouse "deployment poker" tournaments. You know the conversation . .  . You: "My husband's deployed. It's been tough lately." Other person: "Oh yeah? I remember when … [Read more...]


Why Didn’t You Tell Me About the Dress Code?

When I was active duty (which seems like a million years ago) I had a dress code. I was either in uniform or out of uniform. I wore my uniform to work, to do some community functions (like going to … [Read more...]


YDU: I’m a Big Fat Fraud?

Why didn't you tell me that I would be a big fat FRAUD? I have been through many, many deployments. So many, that I haven’t even kept track of the number. I have felt the dread of … [Read more...]


YDU: You Can Find Yourself Through Running

Why didn’t you tell me I would find so much of myself through running? October 20, 2013. That was “the” day of the Army Ten Miler in Washington, DC. And I was registered. But  I. Am. Not. … [Read more...]


YDU: Employment Is My Biggest Struggle?

Why didn't you tell me that employment would be my biggest struggle as a military wife?  I got plenty of other warnings before I married into the military? -- “You’ll be far from … [Read more...]


Why Didn’t You Tell Me I Would Miss Military Life?

It still happens sometimes. As I near the entrance to a store, I reach into my wallet and attempt to pull out my ID. Then, it dawns on me. I am not at the PX, I no longer carry a dependent's ID , and … [Read more...]


YDU: We Can Make a Difference With Lawmakers

I will just come out and say it: I was wrong. And let me tell you, those words do not fall out of my mouth often. But I need to give credit to where credit is due. We put up a good fight my … [Read more...]


Why Didn’t You Tell Me About Daddy Lookalikes?

The first time I saw a kid run up to a service member who wasn’t his daddy was in the commissary in the dry goods aisle. You know, the one with rice and beans and spaghetti and for some strange … [Read more...]


YDU: We Could Raise Incredibly Resilient Kids

Why didn’t you tell me I would be raising incredibly resilient kids? Seriously, I thought I would have a nervous break down the first time I moved my children away from everything they had ever … [Read more...]


YDU: “How Long?” is a Line in the Sand

Lately I’ve noticed that there seems to be an imaginary line between MilSpouses drawn in the proverbial sand. One side says, “Yes, you may have negative feelings in these situations.” The other … [Read more...]


YDU: The Tower of Babble

Why didn't you tell me that the military would turn me into a babbler?  After all, the nice man behind the counter just wanted to know what had brought me to the area.  I suddenly developed some … [Read more...]


YDU: I Developed a Case of Deployment Brain

Why didn't you tell me I'd develop a case of deployment brain? When my friend was six months pregnant, she  woke up, dressed and drove to work on a Saturday morning. She thought it was a Friday. … [Read more...]


YDU: The Army Ruins Plans for the Guard, Too

I read about it all the time on Spousebuzz - The Army does not care about your plans, it does not care about your schedule. The Army cannot always keep its promises. For whatever reason, though, I … [Read more...]