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Care Package OBSESSION: 8 Great Care Package Ideas

My soon-to-be husband deployed to Afghanistan for a year in 2012. Between planning our wedding and my career as a teacher, I became obsessed (and I mean obsessed) with care packages. It was the … [Read more...]

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How to Live When the Military Forces a Pause

Anonymous ... raw ... lost. Even though it’s been a mere two years since our last military-mandated move, I’d nearly forgotten the feelings that would hit me on leaving a beloved location and … [Read more...]

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He’s Gone: Now What Do I Do?

He's gone. Is the answer to this heartbreak to found in your own house? This weekend my girlfriend sent me a picture of her half-empty closet. On one side, her clothes hung in a neat row. On the … [Read more...]

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Help for Army Girlfriend With No Contact Point

Can’t you just Google that? So often we expect newbies to military life to be able to Google anything they need to know. And they do. The problem is that when you are just starting military life as … [Read more...]

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Help This Spouse: Local Program to the National Level?

I remember hearing that the ship was in “River City” during my husband’s first deployment. I Googled the term and felt even more confused. I thought, “My husband is deployed. Why is he in … [Read more...]

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How You Can Get a Free YMCA Membership

If you don't live near a military base during deployment - or are stationed far away from one - you could get a free YMCA membership for your family. That's because a program that gives free YMCA … [Read more...]

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5 Ways We Give “A Million Thanks” To Troops

I founded the A Million Thanks organization in 2004 when I was 15 years old. My goal was simple – to collect and distribute cards and letters of appreciation to military stationed around the … [Read more...]

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Harder to Send a Son to War?

For too many years, I lived with the unholy fear that a blue Air Force staff car would pull up in front of my living quarters. The doorbell would ring, and the somber faces of uniformed death angels … [Read more...]

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Our PTSD Story: I Thought It Was The Alchohol

I thought that our problem was the alcohol. I thought it was the fifth of whiskey and the six-pack of beer he could put away in a night.  Instead our problem was combat PTSD.  And I couldn’t let … [Read more...]

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‘Resilience’ is a Dirty Word, Lady

Among military wives, ‘resilience’ has become a kind of a dirty word. When any speaker mentioned resilience at our Military.com National Spouse Summit this year, the crowd looked like they were … [Read more...]

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3 Easiest Resiliency Skills Ever!

Now that we’ve dispelled the myths about Army Resilience Training and hopefully explained the benefit of the training to Army spouses, I want to get you started on a few skills that you can begin … [Read more...]

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Losing Deployment Poker

We've all endured military spouse "deployment poker" tournaments. You know the conversation . .  . You: "My husband's deployed. It's been tough lately." Other person: "Oh yeah? I remember when … [Read more...]

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Bedroom Confessions: We All Sleep Here

I just bought one of those fancy activity tracker bands to evaluate my exercise (none) and my sleep (less than none). I’m always exhausted in the morning; why can’t I get a good night’s … [Read more...]

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Drawdown and Other Things That Are Too Good to Be True

"The military is drawing down. Deployments are slowing. Your service member will be home more." Someone please tell me I'm not the only person who reads those words and thinks "I'll believe THAT … [Read more...]

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11 Ways To Calm Down (When Freaking Out!)

During deployment, we don’t just worry about our service member’s safety, we worry about the house burning down for good measure. We don’t just worry about the deployment being extended, we … [Read more...]

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We Don’t ‘Stand By’ For Tragedy

Before the phone rings, it is a normal Thursday morning. Then we get the official word that there has been a casualty at the command. The next of kin has been notified, but the name has not yet … [Read more...]

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YDU: I Got All My Sisters With Me

Why didn’t you tell me that with each mention of a deployment getting underway, my heart would rip out of my chest. I know that pain. Why didn’t you tell me that every homecoming would bring … [Read more...]

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Unmarried Girl’s Guide To Deployment

I braved my first Navy deployment as a long-term girlfriend. I use the term “braved” because I was not fully prepared for the challenges I was yet to face. Even though I attended spouse club … [Read more...]