9 Ombudsman Rules I Learned From a Navy SEAL Team

An Ombudsman is faced with enormous responsibility during deployment. The command Ombudsman also has a tremendous opportunity to lead by example and to deeply love those who wait. I had the honor … [Read more...]


Lynn Carroll: This Is Who You Are Missing

When death comes to the military community, it comes by Facebook. Tuesday morning Amy messaged me, “You knew Lynn Carroll, didn’t you? Anyway, she passed away. Cancer.” Cancer? Somehow Army … [Read more...]


Army Newlywed In Her 40s: Help This Spouse!

When you are an Army newlywed in your 40s, you probably think of that quote from When Harry Met Sally: “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of … [Read more...]


Time to Disband Family Readiness Groups?

Our SpouseBuzz readers sure are hot over a recent post about how few young spouses participate in Family Readiness. Readers said they did not have time for the FRG because of work commitments, a … [Read more...]


Does Your Command Really Want a Great FRG?

I have been a military spouse for just over 15 years. In that time, our family has experienced family readiness programs that were amazing and some that were, well, let’s just say less than … [Read more...]


The Young Spouses Don’t Care?

"The young spouses just don't care anymore." That's what a friend told me last week as she related her problems with getting volunteers involved in the Family Readiness Group (FRG) in her husband's … [Read more...]


What to Do About Toxic FRG Members?

When do you move??  For the past 12 years, I’ve volunteered with the local installation or the Family Readiness Group wherever we have lived. When I meet a truly negative spouse in the FRG, … [Read more...]


You Say ‘Dependent,’ I Say …

It sets my back up when people dismiss military spouses as "dependents.” What kind of crack is that, anyway? “Independence? That’s middle class blasphemy,” wrote Nobel prize winning … [Read more...]


POLL: Is the Spouse Sisterhood a Myth?

Marry into the military and someone is sure to tell you how she envies all the support you receive.  Seriously?  Support?  Is that what you call it? In response to a recent blog post about … [Read more...]


The Ask: Can You Help the Helpers?

We are always asking our military professionals -- lobbyists, speakers, activists, providers -- for help. And they come through time and again. So after our Spouse Summit, I asked our presenters to … [Read more...]


Top 10 Signs You’re a Complainer (And How to Fix It)

I am not one to join a Quit Complaining campaign. I figure if you aren’t complaining about life just a little, you aren’t paying enough attention. But in military life where so many hold a … [Read more...]


Ingenius Spouse Moves Family Training Online

Sometimes the best ideas are the ones right in front of you. That's how it was for Brandy Pearson. As a certified Army Family Team Building (AFTB) instructor currently far from a traditional base … [Read more...]


Create a Lovely Valentine’s Day Care Package for a Friend

No matter how many times I say Valentine’s Day is silly and I plan to ignore it this year because my servicemember isn’t available, a secret part of me is still sad. My husband proposed to me the … [Read more...]


4 Ways to Help a Hurting Friend

Life – both military and civilian – is full of gotchas. You’re just walking along, minding your own business, when down from the sky falls something horrible. Maybe it’s military related … [Read more...]


Confession: I Have Autism

We had moved for the fifth time in around six years, and I was floundering, yet again. I had always had trouble making and keeping friends. I tend to say all the wrong things, do the wrong things, and … [Read more...]


I Admit It: I Was an Ignorant Civilian

It’s no secret that I love the movies. And up until a few weeks ago, on the list of movies I loved was Black Hawk. Down. It was the first time I had watched it as a military spouse with a few … [Read more...]


15 Simple Things to Do With Your Servicemember

If you’re like me you probably have a bucket list of things you want to do in life. My husband and I first created one of things we want to do together before his first deployment to Iraq. … [Read more...]


I Was the Back-Up ‘Husband’ at the Birth

It was no surprise when the one night our spouses were out of town, about three hours away, my friend’s precious little girl decided she was ready to enter the world. Immediately. All I know … [Read more...]