Why didn’t you tell me that (except for the flowers) spouses are not really recognized at retirement ceremonies? My husband of 25 years calmly told me that there is not really a place for spouse … [Read more...]
Make Your Servicemember Think you are Having More Sex
It isn’t how much sex you are having that matters. A new study from the University of Colorado Boulder stays that what makes people happy is how much sex you THINK you are having. Apparently, … [Read more...]
5 Ways Military Couples can Build Trust From Far Away
I often feel that in the military community a happy marriage is much like a target waiting to be struck down. It reminds me of an old Army saying which states “If the Army wanted you to have a wife … [Read more...]
Will a Divorce Hurt His Military Career?
I wish every military couple would drive straight to Happily Ever Afterville. No stops. No detours. No broken down marriages left by the side of the road. After all we go through together, I want … [Read more...]
Should the Military Encourage Living Together Instead of Marriage?
Early marriage has no fans. Any junior servicemembers who announce their engagement will meet plenty of people who want to talk them out of it. -- This is just a divorce waiting to happen! -- … [Read more...]
The Key to Successful Marriages: Submissive Wives?
Marriage isn’t easy. And there are a million books on the shelves at Barnes and Noble telling us that marriage is easier if we recognize that men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and we need to … [Read more...]
Poll: Does a Break Help or Hurt Your Marriage?
On the bright and shiny surface, civilian friends are all pity and good wishes when we go through a deployment. They can't believe we military spouses have to live so many months without the constant … [Read more...]
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Video: How to be a Great Communicator
One of the first things I learned from interviewing male military spouses who have successful marriages is that they all talk with their wives. I'm not referring to common daily small talk, but actual … [Read more...]
What Your Mother-in-Law Failed to Tell You
Let’s talk Mothers-in-Law. I know. Once this Pandora’s Box is open it is difficult to shut. All sorts of family secrets and taboo topics rise to the surface, and yes, I know that you either love … [Read more...]
My Servicemember Made Me A Rulebreaker
WHAT IF WE GET CAUGHT? My military husband and I were hiking on this lava rock trail in Hawaii. The guide books promised ample opportunities to spot the migrating humpback whales. About a mile … [Read more...]
Does Your Husband Deserve Gold Stars?
Gretchen Rubin thinks your husband deserves some gold stars. The author of The Happiness Project is not thinking of the kind of gold stars you might wear on your shoulder or chest or sleeve. I’m … [Read more...]
3 Great Questions for a Better Relationship
I’m a closet romantic. Took me 8 months to get a date with the woman who is now my wife and after almost 20 years together, I still love her…and more importantly, she still loves me – which she … [Read more...]
Poll: Should She Tell if Spouse is Cheating?
Military.com’s advice columnist Ms. Vicki recently got a letter from a college student who caught her mom in the arms of another servicemember. The young woman’s father is currently deployed … [Read more...]
Would You Do the MilLife All Over Again?
Imagine a chapel filled with military couples. They range in marital experience from newlyweds with only a few months since their “I do’s,” to a seasoned couple who has celebrated 32 … [Read more...]
Write A Better Love Letter
My husband dreads Valentine’s Day. Maybe because the poor guy married a writer. While I can come up with pages and pages about how much I love him and why I love him and how long I’m going to … [Read more...]
Top Ten Beliefs That Hold Back Military Marriages
“We're often kept from getting what we want in life more by the demands we place on ourselves than by the demands of others,” notes Christy Matta, author of The Stress Response in this Huffington … [Read more...]
What Is Your Love Language?
What language do you speak? This might seem like an easy question, but I found out that I speak more languages than I thought. Before we were invited to Oprah’s Life Class,” my husband and I … [Read more...]
Is This A Break Up Or A Military Thing?
Vicki has probably already read Its Called A Break Up Because It's Broken. She probably sat through He's Not That Into You six times. If this were a civilian relationship, she would know whether or … [Read more...]
