Should Gay Military Spouses Go Overseas Anyway?

Same-sex military partners, many of who cannot accompany their spouse on an overseas PCS because the host country won't recognize them as dependents, can now get command sponsorship to … [Read more...]


Husbands Say: Get A Job, Military Wife

“He loved it while I was doing it,” a Navy wife told me. But once there was a ‘bill to pay?’ He forgot all about that part.” This Navy wife was not telling me about any dirty doings. … [Read more...]


Pride Month: Understanding Transgender Military

Our allies allow transgender service members to serve openly. Australia, Belgium, Canada, The Czech Republic, Israel, the Netherlands, Spain, Sweden, Thailand and the UK all have openly working … [Read more...]


5 Favorite Trump Cards For Military Marriage

The best marriage advice I ever got was, “No marriage is ever 50/50.” I remember at the time I was shocked. I was bound and determined to have equal distribution of everything. Looking back, … [Read more...]


New Bill Would Extend Military Mom Leave

A bill introduced in Congress last week would give service member moms up to 12 weeks off for maternity leave -- six of those unpaid. Right now military moms are given six weeks of leave after … [Read more...]


It’s Over: 16 Ways We Deal With Divorce

A very dear friend of mine was given very bad news by her husband of five years: their marriage was over. And there was nothing she could do about it. My heart hurt for her. I could easily place … [Read more...]


Top 10 Things I Had To Learn About Military Marriage

Last night while I was waiting for my two-year-old to stop crying after being moved to her big girl bed, I realized how far I’ve come since I was a military bride of 22…and how much I have stayed … [Read more...]


Why Do Men In Uniform Rule Online Dating Sites?

What explains the edge military guys have when it comes to online dating? Do women really like a man in uniform that much? Or is something else going on? When it comes to the research, you might be … [Read more...]


How to Stay Together Forever, Military Style

Date. Your. Husband. At our Spouse Experience events, we always like to ask long-married military couples how they are managing to stay together forever. We are secretly hoping for sex … [Read more...]


12 Things Emotionally Strong MilSpouses Don’t Do

Emotionally strong people don’t lie in bed dreading the day. According to Paul Hudson’s awesome piece for the Elite Daily, Emotionally strong people don’t beg for attention, they don’t hold … [Read more...]


Top 10 Signs You Are A Seasoned Marine Spouse

There is something about a “seasoned” Marine Spouse that I can’t help but love. As a Navy wife I sometimes pull on the role of seasoned spouse like I had dragged an area rug off the floor to … [Read more...]


Reintegration Secret: Housework and Childcare

One soldier told me that at their command they call it the Don’t-Beat-Yer-Wife-Cuz-She-Bought-New-Curtains speech. He was talking about the reintegration lecture presented to returning troops. … [Read more...]


Why F-Bombing the Post-PCS Low Didn’t Work

I try not to drop the F-Bomb. It usually slips out when I am really ticked off. Or driving. I woke up today in good spirits. My husband actually got to sleep in which meant so did I, since I do not … [Read more...]


Top 10 Most Surprising Things for Military Newlyweds

Marry a  guy in uniform and you think that you are getting a guy ... wearing a uniform.  I mean, seriously, how different can it be from marrying someone without a military uniform? Still, at our … [Read more...]


Female Military Divorce Rate Ticks Downward

Something seems to be going right for female servicemembers  -- and the men to whom they are married. Since 2011 their overall divorce rate has dropped from 8 percent to 7.2 percent, a steady … [Read more...]


Top 10 Things Military Husbands Want Wives To Know

Every married servicemember who has walked in my clinic in 29 Palms, CA, confessed that being married was way harder than being a US Marine or being deployed. These men often came into counseling … [Read more...]


Soldiers are From Mars, Spouses From Venus

If you’ve ever read best-selling author John Gray’s book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,  then you know he believes communication styles between men and women differ significantly and … [Read more...]


Can Someone Save Me From My Military Bitterness?

Maybe it isn't the big things that sap your will to live a military life.  Maybe it is the little things.  Maybe it is the one-two punch of things that happen. That's what I was thinking the last … [Read more...]