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Did Your Combat Vet Tell You Too Much?

When you are a kid, you think the mark of an intimate relationship is that you and your beloved tell each other everything. When ‘everything’ consists of how you feel about your mother, how much … [Read more...]

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Staying Married: Never Use the D Word

Being married is not the goal for the young military spouses we see at our live Spouse X events. Staying married—happily married—is one of their many life goals. And we see them looking for ideas … [Read more...]

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Dear Wife: This is What You Say About Iraq

My Dear Friend, You asked me what you are supposed to say to your soldier when he sees Iraq go to hell on the news and he asks:  Did any of it matter? You think this moment of questioning … [Read more...]

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What Do I Say to My Spouse About Iraq?

So here we are. Parts of Afghanistan, especially the areas outside major population centers, are slowly being retaken. Iraq is Iraq. Our friends who lost buddies over there in both countries are … [Read more...]

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Military Love Letter: 70 Years Later Still Brings Tears

Military love letters connect couples over long distances -- whether by email or text or Pinterest or cards in the snail mail. During World War II, Myra Strachner exchanged nearly 700 letters with her … [Read more...]

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Army Newlywed In Her 40s: Help This Spouse!

When you are an Army newlywed in your 40s, you probably think of that quote from When Harry Met Sally: “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of … [Read more...]

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6 Ways To Get Busy On Your Own Marriage

When we were first married, my husband and I were friends with the Perfect Couple.  They never seemed to argue. They doted on each other and their children. They both understood their roles within … [Read more...]

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He’s Gone: Now What Do I Do?

He's gone. Is the answer to this heartbreak to found in your own house? This weekend my girlfriend sent me a picture of her half-empty closet. On one side, her clothes hung in a neat row. On the … [Read more...]

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How To Be A Happy Marine Corps Wife

Marine Corps wife?  This life was scary to me when I first encountered it. Sure it was fun to get dressed up for my first ball, but then came the reality of what being married to a Marine was really … [Read more...]

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Should Gay Military Spouses Go Overseas Anyway?

Same-sex military partners, many of who cannot accompany their spouse on an overseas PCS because the host country won't recognize them as dependents, can now get command sponsorship to … [Read more...]

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Husbands Say: Get A Job, Military Wife

“He loved it while I was doing it,” a Navy wife told me. But once there was a ‘bill to pay?’ He forgot all about that part.” This Navy wife was not telling me about any dirty doings. … [Read more...]

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Pride Month: Understanding Transgender Military

Our allies allow transgender service members to serve openly. Australia, Belgium, Canada, The Czech Republic, Israel, the Netherlands, Spain, Sweden, Thailand and the UK all have openly working … [Read more...]

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5 Favorite Trump Cards For Military Marriage

The best marriage advice I ever got was, “No marriage is ever 50/50.” I remember at the time I was shocked. I was bound and determined to have equal distribution of everything. Looking back, … [Read more...]

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New Bill Would Extend Military Mom Leave

A bill introduced in Congress last week would give service member moms up to 12 weeks off for maternity leave -- six of those unpaid. Right now military moms are given six weeks of leave after … [Read more...]

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It’s Over: 16 Ways We Deal With Divorce

A very dear friend of mine was given very bad news by her husband of five years: their marriage was over. And there was nothing she could do about it. My heart hurt for her. I could easily place … [Read more...]

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Top 10 Things I Had To Learn About Military Marriage

Last night while I was waiting for my two-year-old to stop crying after being moved to her big girl bed, I realized how far I’ve come since I was a military bride of 22…and how much I have stayed … [Read more...]

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Why Do Men In Uniform Rule Online Dating Sites?

What explains the edge military guys have when it comes to online dating? Do women really like a man in uniform that much? Or is something else going on? When it comes to the research, you might be … [Read more...]

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How to Stay Together Forever, Military Style

Date. Your. Husband. At our Spouse Experience events, we always like to ask long-married military couples how they are managing to stay together forever. We are secretly hoping for sex … [Read more...]