Top 10 Things I Had To Learn About Military Marriage

Last night while I was waiting for my two-year-old to stop crying after being moved to her big girl bed, I realized how far I’ve come since I was a military bride of 22…and how much I have stayed … [Read more...]


Why Do Men In Uniform Rule Online Dating Sites?

What explains the edge military guys have when it comes to online dating? Do women really like a man in uniform that much? Or is something else going on? When it comes to the research, you might be … [Read more...]


How to Stay Together Forever, Military Style

Date. Your. Husband. At our Spouse Experience events, we always like to ask long-married military couples how they are managing to stay together forever. We are secretly hoping for sex … [Read more...]


12 Things Emotionally Strong MilSpouses Don’t Do

Emotionally strong people don’t lie in bed dreading the day. According to Paul Hudson’s awesome piece for the Elite Daily, Emotionally strong people don’t beg for attention, they don’t hold … [Read more...]


Top 10 Signs You Are A Seasoned Marine Spouse

There is something about a “seasoned” Marine Spouse that I can’t help but love. As a Navy wife I sometimes pull on the role of seasoned spouse like I had dragged an area rug off the floor to … [Read more...]


Reintegration Secret: Housework and Childcare

One soldier told me that at their command they call it the Don’t-Beat-Yer-Wife-Cuz-She-Bought-New-Curtains speech. He was talking about the reintegration lecture presented to returning troops. … [Read more...]


Why F-Bombing the Post-PCS Low Didn’t Work

I try not to drop the F-Bomb. It usually slips out when I am really ticked off. Or driving. I woke up today in good spirits. My husband actually got to sleep in which meant so did I, since I do not … [Read more...]


Top 10 Most Surprising Things for Military Newlyweds

Marry a  guy in uniform and you think that you are getting a guy ... wearing a uniform.  I mean, seriously, how different can it be from marrying someone without a military uniform? Still, at our … [Read more...]


Female Military Divorce Rate Ticks Downward

Something seems to be going right for female servicemembers  -- and the men to whom they are married. Since 2011 their overall divorce rate has dropped from 8 percent to 7.2 percent, a steady … [Read more...]


Top 10 Things Military Husbands Want Wives To Know

Every married servicemember who has walked in my clinic in 29 Palms, CA, confessed that being married was way harder than being a US Marine or being deployed. These men often came into counseling … [Read more...]


Soldiers are From Mars, Spouses From Venus

If you’ve ever read best-selling author John Gray’s book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,  then you know he believes communication styles between men and women differ significantly and … [Read more...]


Can Someone Save Me From My Military Bitterness?

Maybe it isn't the big things that sap your will to live a military life.  Maybe it is the little things.  Maybe it is the one-two punch of things that happen. That's what I was thinking the last … [Read more...]


To Christmas Card or Not To Christmas Card?

I get fierce Christmas amnesia. It’s sort of like 50 First Dates on eggnog and a bottle of Jack. I wake up the day after Thanksgiving and totally forget everything I ever knew the previous 11 months … [Read more...]


3 Steps for Working Through Infidelity

It’s the big “C” word -- we all talk about and some of us suspect it. “It” is cheating, and military marriages aren’t any more immune than any others. Experts say a lack of emotional … [Read more...]


What Advice for New Military Spouses?

What is the one piece of advice YOU would give new military spouses?  When I got the note from Military Partners and Families Coalition inviting me to be their Ally of the Month, I was … [Read more...]


Dear Hagel: Do We Have A Future In the Military?

Has the shutdown made you wonder whether the military is the best place for your family? You’ve got Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel worrying about it. At a recent private meeting with enlisted … [Read more...]


‘What to Expect’ Baby Showers for New Military Moms

Heidi Murkoff knows What to Expect. The author of both What to Expect When You're Expecting and What to Expect in the First Year, she knows we should expect pregnancy and new motherhood to be … [Read more...]


Poll: Would You Be Happier Outside the Military?

Happiness is a finicky thing. We spend hours of our days, often subconsciously, pursuing things because they make us happy. Heck, the U.S. was formed, at least in very small part, to protect the ever … [Read more...]