It never seems quite fair to me. Divorced spouses have reported that when their marriages broke-up, their military friends distanced themselves. Military widows say the same thing happens to them. … [Read more...]
Top Ten Ways To Daughter-In-Law
Our son enlisted in the USMC right after high school graduation. Five years later, on his second enlistment, he tells us he was “really in love this time,” with a fellow Marine. Deme was a woman … [Read more...]
How Do You Deal With Angry MilSpouses?
This spouse swept into the waiting room wearing her anger like a billowing cape. “How relevant is marriage anyway?” she demanded. “Young people today are asking themselves if it is even worth it … [Read more...]
“Deployment Sex Pacts” are a Myth (Updated)
When I married my smoking hot military man, I promised to stay faithful to him no matter what – and he promised to stay faithful to me. There were no ifs, ands or buts. There was no “unless you … [Read more...]
Top Ten Ways To Become Perfect In-Laws
Think Marie Barone. If you want to know how to be perfect in-laws for the military, think of Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond. And do the opposite of what she would do. At our … [Read more...]
How Much Fun is Appropriate During a Deployment?
Am I the only one who cancels previously scheduled family vacations when the active duty member deploys? Alright, alright, alright ... I know I will go on living and do all kinds of super-fun stuff … [Read more...]
Cheating is Not a Military Thing
Since the news broke of Gen. Petraeus' extramarital affair with Paula Broadwell, the opinions of folks have been flying. There has been a VERY large group of people who are screaming "conspiracy" … [Read more...]
Infidelity: Not What I’m Here For
How widespread is infidelity in the military anyway? Is it common? Pervasive? Inevitable? One of the results of the Petraeus admissions is that the question of fidelity between military couples … [Read more...]
Holiday Travel: Can’t Everyone Just Come To Us?
I have a love/hate relationship with the holidays. I’m all about expressing my gratitude for another year of health and happiness and sharing the joy of gift-giving and receiving. I might be able to … [Read more...]
Are MilSpouses Entitled to Anything?
A male military spouse was recently stranded in Hawaii after he was denied boarding for a military hop on its way to Japan because his name was on the “no-fly” list. He had gotten as far as the … [Read more...]
Presidential Parenting Advice for Jay-Z (and You)
During a recent radio interview the President talked about some valuable advice he gave new dad Jay-Z. "I made sure that Jay-Z was helping Beyonce out (with the baby)," the President said. "And not … [Read more...]
Sex and Housework: Military Style
Friday night, 8 p.m. By some temporal miracle, you've gotten the family fed, the little ones in bed - victory! - and you haven't yet fallen asleep face-first into the dishes. You're amazing. And … [Read more...]
YDU: Being a Stay at Home Wife is a Job
Being a stay at home wife is a job. It is a job without pay, and sometimes a job without thanks, but it is a job. From dusting to laundry to grocery shopping, there is always something to be done. … [Read more...]
My Invisible Husband Really Does Exist!
My husband is invisible. He doesn’t exist. He’s a figment of my imagination. I’m totally making him up. I’m pretty sure that’s what people are thinking when I repeatedly show up solo at … [Read more...]
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What to do When There’s no Answer to “What’s Next?”
Have you ever hit a plateau? You are working your way towards a goal, big or small, and you finally achieve it and then wonder, "What's next?" This plateau could be anything, in your career or … [Read more...]
Five Mistakes I Keep Making In My Military Marriage
I keep blowing it. No matter how many anniversaries my husband and I rack up, I still keep making some of the same mistakes in my military marriage. I’m not alone. Gretchen Rubin, bestselling … [Read more...]
Why Do You Love Being a MilSpouse?
Military life isn’t always fun, and it’s definitely not always easy. But it’s not without some redeeming qualities. In fact, when we asked our Facebook readers to share their favorite things … [Read more...]
Do We Have to Divorce Our Divorcing Friends?
My husband and I were newlyweds the first time friends of ours got divorced. My initial reaction when I found out was one of shock and concern. I couldn’t fathom the thought of anyone in my age … [Read more...]
