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To My Civilian Friends on Memorial Day

Dear Civilian Friend, I have to tell you something about Memorial Day. You’re doing it wrong. Now don’t get upset - I know you have big plans. I’ve seen your patriotic barbecue board on … [Read more...]

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Why ‘We’ Is Better Than ‘Us’ and ‘Them’

We like to separate things. We like to place things in neat little boxes. When it comes to military life, we especially like to compartmentalize 'us' vs. 'them.' But then we complain about 'the … [Read more...]

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Make Milspouse Emergency a 10 Minute Crisis

Two nights ago I rushed my son to the ER for stiches. It took all my might not to laugh the entire way there. He never heard me laugh. I was sure to show him all the love and compassion a scared … [Read more...]

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How Introverts Make Military Friendships

I think military life may have turned my husband and I into an "outgoing introvert."  My husband was voted “Shyest” in his high school class. If my high school would have had that Senior … [Read more...]

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When a Natural Disaster Steps Into Military Life

Wives were talking about staying or going. I decided to stay. Anything I was experiencing didn’t seem as bad as what the Japanese were facing. In March of 2011, my husband and I had been … [Read more...]

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Sea Time Confessions to my Husband

Dear Husband, First and foremost, I’m thrilled you've once again advanced your career and received orders back to sea. While I’m saddened you won’t be home as much, I’m ecstatic that … [Read more...]

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What NOT To Say To National Guard Families

I don’t think anyone denies the fact that the National Guard played an important role in the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan.  These men and women trained and fought bravely along side their active … [Read more...]

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Luck of the Draw: Why This First Kiss Matters

The  community enjoyed another “first” on February 10th when USS San Francisco pulled into port in San Diego. U.S. Navy Petty Officer 2nd Class Thomas Sawicki, having won the lottery for … [Read more...]

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No Politics, No Pity, No Pansies

There are lots of ways to honor fallen service members, veterans and military families. They’re all good. Anything honoring someone for doing something of value is good. But “No Politics, … [Read more...]

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What Real Military Spouses Want for Valentine’s Day

According to love experts, 86 percent of men will buy their Valentine the wrong gift this year. Many of those gift givers will be buying flowers, which, according to these experts, most women don't … [Read more...]

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Tag Us on Instagram in Your #MilCrush Military Love Photos

We want to see your military love photos. Follow us @MilSpouseBuzz on Instagram and tag your photos with #MilCrush in honor of Valentines Day! We are suckers for military love photos here at … [Read more...]

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How To Ruin Your Military Life

Anyone who lives a fulfilling military life would tell you that it's not easy--but they wouldn’t change it for the world. Ruining your military life? Now that’s easy. Although I wouldn’t advise … [Read more...]

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Life Raft to Row Boat to Party Boat? National Guard Wife

My husband deployed to Iraq with the National Guard in 2008.  It was the first deployment of our married life (his third.  My first time as a National Guard Wife was the loneliest time I have ever … [Read more...]

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What Does It Mean to Be Ignored at the Super Bowl?

Did you notice how the military was virtually absent from Super Bowl XLIX? It was weird. For the past 13 years, it has seemed like every other Super Bowl commercial featured Marines, soldiers, … [Read more...]

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Mom’s Accused Attempted Murder and Mental Health for Spouses

A soldier returning from Afghanistan doesn’t usually turn a spouse into a recluse. Taking care of three kids under two years old almost never results in three counts of attempted murder. People just … [Read more...]

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Are You Crazy Or Is Military Life Crazymaking?

Sometimes I wonder whether I am crazy to be trying to make a life with a military guy or whether the military life is actually making me crazy? Not only do I have my own list of crazymaking … [Read more...]

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My Dream House Is Not What I Thought

“Wow, so now that he’s retiring, you’re going to buy a house! You’ve moved so many times, I bet you know exactly what you want," a civilian friend said to me. You'd think so, right?  My … [Read more...]

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What I Learned About Career From Young Spouses

Do you ever wish you could tell the younger version of yourself some words of wisdom about your career? I recently had a chat with a newer military spouse about her experiences assimilating into … [Read more...]