Landmark Study to Examine Military Loss and Grief

A federally funded, landmark, never been done before study is examining military loss and grief through direct interviews with adult and child survivors. The study, which you can read about in this … [Read more...]


Gold Star Parents Look to Honor Vets With Healing Retreat

Moving forward and healing from grief is a tricky thing that doesn't look the same way for everyone. But for Gretchen and Kirk Catherwood, whose son died in Afghanistan, healing themselves means … [Read more...]


New TAPS Education Program for Bereaved Families

Ashlynne Haycock was only ten years old when her father Sgt. First Class Jeffrey Haycock was killed in Iraq. But Ashlynne already knew education was important to him. “He made me learn all 50 … [Read more...]


Our PTSD Story: I Thought It Was The Alchohol

I thought that our problem was the alcohol. I thought it was the fifth of whiskey and the six-pack of beer he could put away in a night.  Instead our problem was combat PTSD.  And I couldn’t let … [Read more...]


When Every Day Is Memorial Day

I do not write this to make anyone feel guilty for saying "HAPPY Memorial Day!" (But please, don't do that.) I don't want anyone cringing because maybe they've said the wrong thing or been oblivious … [Read more...]


Gold Star Wife’s Courage Showcased in New Film

It wasn't long after Lisa Hallett's husband, Army Cpt. John Hallett, was killed by a roadside bomb in Afghanistan in August, 2009, that she turned to running as a way to cope. And when those of us in … [Read more...]


We Don’t ‘Stand By’ For Tragedy

Before the phone rings, it is a normal Thursday morning. Then we get the official word that there has been a casualty at the command. The next of kin has been notified, but the name has not yet … [Read more...]


She Had No Idea He Turned Down SGLI

Like so many of our service members, Lt. Cmdr. Landon Jones thought he was invincible. He was also the saver in his military home, squirreling away money for the future any way he could. Which is … [Read more...]


Dear America: You Failed Our Fallen Rangers

As a Army Ranger Regiment wife and wounded warrior spouse I know that we take care of our own. But what happens when our own make the ultimate sacrifice for a country that fails the left behind in … [Read more...]


What Every Mother Sees: Gold Star Moms

Updated 9/23/2014 The Marine pilot chuckled when I showed him the picture my Army son sent me of himself with a giant weapon and a threatening expression. “I have a picture of myself at the … [Read more...]


Why Don’t Widows Already Get GI Bill?

When I was told that a bill making its way through the Senate would allow military widows to use their spouse's GI Bill, I was dumbfounded. How is that not already a thing? We actually need a new … [Read more...]


Mark Memorial Day by Remembering Life

I never expected to know military death, even from a distance. When death came, it was not to my doorstep. There were many times its shadow passed by my home, but it never rested here. It … [Read more...]


New Lifetime Series Helps Gold Star Families

A new Lifetime TV network project is raising money for Gold Star families – and you can help. Earlier this year at Military.com’s Spouse Summit, Lifetime Moms spent some time with some military … [Read more...]


Gold Star Wives Don’t Need Art Projects

The stories of the fallen must have just hit me wrong. I was stranded in a hotel lobby in Munich surrounded by people speaking Italian and French. We were all idly watching CNN’s coverage of the … [Read more...]


Why Don’t Military Widows Get Full Educational Benefits?

We military spouses duly learn to dread the knock at the door.  The folded flag.  The long, strange, dark trip through the thousand things a widow or widower must do if a servicemember is killed in … [Read more...]


Will You Run to Remember?

I hate to love running. It’s hard and, especially at this time of year, it’s really hot and yucky. In fact, it’s kind of like torture. But running is so important to me, and not just because it … [Read more...]


Stalking Military Widows Outrages Community

Military widows are working hard enough to get their lives back on track without suffering reality TV producers chasing them down.  This week the spouse blog community is in an uproar about the … [Read more...]


Soldier Who Notified Via Facebook Could Face Prison

The Fort Carson soldier who notified a spouse of her husband’s downrange death using Facebook could face dishonorable discharge, prison time and loss of wages, a JAG official told us. Depending … [Read more...]