Why Does Getting Out Feel Like Quitting?

I think I'm a strong person. I'm an Army wife, after all, with a backbone forged in the fire of deployment, separations, solo birth and dramatic emotional burdens. That makes me strong, right? I … [Read more...]


Getting Out? Use This to Help You Know Where to Go

One of the things that is really exciting about the idea of getting out of the military is the blank slate it gives you. Chances are pretty good you don't plan to stay indefinitely near whatever … [Read more...]


5 Ways to Keep Transition From Making Your Head Explode

I'm sure the kind people who put together transition checklists didn't mean to launch full blown panic. Surely they're aren't that mean, right? The words "transition" and "getting out" have been … [Read more...]


What Does Military Transition Really Do to Marriage?

Very little about military transition is easy. We all know that the military is more than a career track or job -- it's a lifestyle. And unlike most jobs held by the breadwinner, it intimately … [Read more...]


Fake Homeless Veterans: What Do You Do?

I spotted him from across a busy intersection near the White House. Surrounded by bags and backpacks, he held a creased cardboard rectangle with the words “Iraq Combat VET” scrawled in Sharpie. He … [Read more...]


New List: The Best Places to Start Post-Military Life

If you're one of the thousands of military families looking to transition out of the force over the next few years, you're about to make a big decision -- where to look for a job and settle … [Read more...]


Poll: What Year of Military Transition Was Hardest For You?

According to the research, there are only two ways to leave the military: voluntarily or involuntarily. If you leave because it is your own idea -- you discover the military is not for you … [Read more...]


We Got the Pink Slip – And We’re Okay

Every time I see a story like this one about another service member getting pushed out and another family getting the pink slip, my stomach turns. Partially out of fear (because I know that sinking … [Read more...]


Why Don’t You Have a Plan B, Soldier?

“Always, always have a Plan B,” a SpouseBuzz reader advised an Army wife whose husband was recently passed over. “We serve at the pleasure of the President, and, as has been said by other … [Read more...]


My Soldier is Being Separated

For my entire 10 years as an Army Spouse, I have always thought that the only people that get kicked out of the military are the losers. The drug users. The thieves. The slackers. And then it … [Read more...]


Will You Ever Have a Forever House?

“Is this your Forever House?” our mayor asked while canvasing for reelection in our small town. She and I are both old house owners and old house lovers -- the kind of people who lust after … [Read more...]


Stop Living In the Past, New Retiree

Living in the past may be one of the unspoken hazards of leaving military life. Our younger daughter had some straight talk for my husband and me one summer when she came home from college. "You … [Read more...]


You Can’t Quit the Military!

Nobody “quits” the military. There is no walking into the first sergeant’s office and telling him that you are “grateful for the opportunity.” You can’t text the CO from your car in the … [Read more...]


Top 10 Questions Before Your Military Transition

Leaving the military may feel like someone has just pushed you out of an airplane without issuing you a parachute. Whether your service member decides to leave the military due to the drawdown, … [Read more...]


Will Your Family Stay for 20 if Retirement Changes?

Before the magic ten year mark, military retirement is so far away it doesn’t make any difference in a couple’s decision to leave the military. After the magic ten year mark, leaving the … [Read more...]


Please Start ‘Thinking About’ Leaving the Military

Some military members are more than ready to get out. One soldier I know told his wife, “When you are ready, I am ready.” Others never, ever, wanna think about getting out. Maybe they are … [Read more...]


Can Pentagon Do More to Help Transitioning Families?

If you've had military transition on your mind lately like so many of us, you may have started to pay attention to just what the military offers families as they look to rejoin military life. The … [Read more...]


10 Truths About Military Transition

After the worst move in military history (really: every single table we own was either broken in half, smashed, or crushed), the Big Change has finally happened: We're civilians. Well, the hubs is … [Read more...]