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Oh, Those Civilians!

We all have funny (and not so funny) (and irritated) (and angry) civilian stories. How many of us have told a civilian friend about an impending deployment and been asked in all seriousness, "Can't he just say no?"

It's happened a lot.

We live in a primarily civilian community right now and it's been a bit of a sad adjustment for me to life off base. I miss many aspects of base life – the safety of my children and their ability to run around and play free range, knowing all my neighbors, and the support I got during deployments.

But yesterday I had a very interesting exchange with my civilian neighbor.

My kids and I were on our way to Holy Thursday mass when our neighbor pulled me aside. I have to admit, I was trying to break away – Daughter #2 was altar serving and we were already running a bit behind thanks to a dog issue (isn't it always a dog issue? Or a kid issue?).

The reason my neighbor pulled me aside was to ask when we planned to attend mass on Easter Sunday. You see, she wanted to use the time we were gone to hide eggs for my children in the front yard.

I was flabbergasted. She went out and bought candy filled eggs for my children? For Easter? For us? Why?

She wanted to do something nice for them. Knowing that Air Force Guy is getting ready to leave for another deployment, she wanted to do something for them – something that would help make a day to remember before Dad leaves.

And I didn't have to ask for anything. She just saw something she could do, and she chose to do it.

We do talk a lot of smack about civilians. Sometimes it does feel like no one understands us, and sometimes it does feel like no one cares.

But other times – other times I'm reminded that there are people out there who care – really care. They just need to know what they can do.

After talking to our neighbor yesterday, the world felt a little less isolated and a little more understanding. And I was reminded that there are indeed people – people who barely know us – who really do care.

About airforcewife

airforcewife started her military journey as an Army National Guard wife, but upon experiencing base housing decided to aim high and made the switch to the Air Force. That's worked pretty well for Air Force Family so far, even though airforcewife holds the spouse world record for Come to Jesus talks with various members of the command.

Air Force Family has four children, two pit bulls, and a Mother-in-Law who lost her mind eight years ago. Despite the reputation of pit bulls, airforcewife would like to assure you that her Mother-in-Law is truly the most dangerous of the group, and is banned in more places than the dogs.

airforcewife gets through Air Force Guy's frequent deployments and TDY's by frequently attending her boxing gym, after the chance discovery last deployment that hitting things really does make life better. She also volunteers as the Ambassador for Sew Much Comfort to Bethesda National Naval Medical Center and in a variety of other causes throughout the year.

airforcewife has no idea what the future holds, but decided five years ago that she wants to be Andi when she grows up.