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From the Mailbag: New Husband, First Deployment. Advice?

SpouseBUZZ reader G is seeking advice from military wives. She’ll be marrying a soldier in July and he will be deploying a few months later.

Hello SB. My fiance is in the Army National Guard and we will be getting married this July….at some point this fall he will be deploying for the first time in his military career. I was wondering what advice do you have for newlyweds faced with a deployment, and any advice on how to get through it? ¬†Since he isnt AD Army I will be moving back with my mom while he is deployed. My other question is what type of support is offered to Army National Guard Spouses during deployment and after?

I married into the Army years before September 11 and had a chance to become familiar with the lifestyle before I experienced a deployment. It’s one reason I’m in such awe of the younger spouses who dive into this constant deployment cycle head-first and display such resiliency. Although I know we do what we have to do, I’m still not sure I would have had that much strength when I was younger. G mentions that her husband-to-be is in the Guard and not Active Duty, so she may not be surrounded by a community of people who understand what she’s going through. That can be both good, and bad. I think online forums such as this one are crucial for all spouses, but particularly those who are geographically isolated from a military community.

I think it’s fantastic that G is already using the internet to make connections, and reaching out for advice. It made me think of this old post by Guard Wife on advice for military spouses. G, we wish you luck with the upcoming wedding and deployment and just remember, we’re here 24/7!

So, what advice would you give someone like G who is just starting out on her journey as a military spouse?

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About Andi

Andi is married to an active-duty soldier and is the founder and former editor of SpouseBUZZ.

She is the founder of the Annual MilBlog Conference. The MilBlog Conference is the premiere event of the year for military bloggers. President George W. Bush, U.S. Representative Adam Smith, GEN David Petraeus, LTG Mike Oates, LTG William Caldwell, RADM Mark Fox, MG Kevin Bergner, MG David Hogg and The Honorable Pete Geren have addressed previous conferences.

While living in Washington, DC, Andi was the Ambassador to Walter Reed Army Medical Center for Sew Much Comfort, a non-profit organization which makes and delivers, free of charge, special adaptive clothing for wounded service members. Andi has worked with several non-profits to help our wounded heroes and their families. She finds that work to be the most rewarding and meaningful of all.

Andi strives to find humor in the good, bad and ugly of life and is a firm believer that laughter has the ability to cure most ills.